The positive impacts of hugs on people’s bodies and minds are well documented. In order for hugs to be healthy, both participants have to be engaged with full, enthusiastic consent. Otherwise, the hug can easily become a negative experience. Don’t Hug the Quokka! By Daniel Enrico provides a lighthearted and friendly introduction to the concept of consent for young children.  Read an excerpt from the Note to Parents and Caregivers by Karen Rayne, PhD, providing guidance to help your child understand consent.  Bodily Autonomy and Understanding Consent The thing to remember about hugs is that they are often the very first kinds of interpersonal touch that children learn to navigate on their own. The rules that are laid around hugs—how to ask for them, how to consent or not consent to them, how to listen to someone else’s consent—are the basis for the tools that children will take into their adolescence and young adulthood. The basic hallmark is to trust children to draw their own boundaries on their physical bodies. If they don’t want to be hugged or touched, they are allowed to say no. This teaches children that they can be their own person, invites them to actually consider what they do want and need, and increases self-esteem and autonomy. It will also make it easier for them to understand that others have the same right to make decisions about their own bodies—thus learning to accept a no from other people. Helping kids navigate the hug and touch landscape is the start of a lifelong process. These tools translate directly into an adolescent and young adult’s capacity to engage in sexual and romantic relationships clearly, ethically, authentically, and safely.  When (and How!) to Say No Helping your child learn to say no to something or someone is difficult for many parents because they did not receive this kind of guidance and support as children themselves. Instead, it tends to come when children are older and many of their habits around consent have already been formed. Questions and discussion topics to have with your child can include: How do you know if you do not want to hug someone? What are the ways that your body tells you if you do not want to hug someone? (You can talk about the way their body feels in different situations, whether those feelings are comfortable or uncomfortable, and what those feelings might be telling them.) If you do not want to hug a friend, how would you tell them that? What if it were your teacher? What if it were your friend’s parent? (Include additional important people in this question, like family members, clergy members, and others. Model some clear ways to say no, which can be as simple as “No, thank you” or “I don’t want a hug.”) What would you do if someone tried to hug you without asking first? (Some possibilities include saying “Please ask me before you touch me” and “I don’t like it when people hug