gender identity: 3 Articles

Strategies for Transgender Parents to Support Their Children

Most mommies are girls. Most daddies are boys. But a lot of parents are neither a boy nor a girl. Like my Maddy. This excerpt from the Note to Readers in Magination Press book, My Maddy, by Gayle E. Pitman, PhD, was written by Dr. Randall D. Ehrbar, PsyD. It provides information for transgender and gender diverse parents about how they can support their children.   A Maddy is a parent who is in some ways a blend of a Mommy and a Daddy, and is also a unique kind of parent, just as the word “Maddy,” blends the words “Mommy” and “Daddy” to make a new word. Maddy is used in some families to describe a parent who is transgender or gender diverse. Gender identities like this are often referred to as “non-binary” in that they are gender identities beyond two genders (male and female) that most people are familiar with. Some trans people have non-binary identities, while others have more binary gender identities and identify as male/men or female/women. Discussing gender identity with your child It is important to discuss parents’ gender identities in an age-appropriate way focused on your child’s needs.  Use age-appropriate language, answer questions honestly and simply, and find any answers you don’t know.  Discussing details about gender affirming medical treatment may be overwhelming for young children who do not ask for more information. In terms of timing of coming out, preschool-age children seem to adapt to their parent’s transition best, then adult children, and adolescents often have the hardest time adjusting. When a parent transitions In some families a parent “comes out” as trans after the family has been formed and children are already included in the family. A parent’s transition can be a challenging time for children, who may have feelings of grief for how their parent looked prior to coming out. Children may be unsure what their parent’s transition means for their relationship with their parent. The children and family members are also going through a process of transition or transformation. As a parent transitions in your family: Emphasize that they are still the child’s parent. It’s important to let kids know through words and actions that no matter what, they are still the child’s parent. Ideally it helps if spouses and co-parents can present a united front to affirm that the transgender or gender diverse parent will continue to be the child’s parent. Find terms that are comfortable for you and your child. When a parent transitions, children are faced with adjusting how they refer to their parent, which can take practice and evolve over time. It’s important not to rush children to give up familiar terms for a loving parent-child bond; it may be important for children to still call their parent “mommy” or “daddy” for their own comfort and consistency. If a parent who transitions is no longer comfortable with previous labels, the family may move away from them. Children and parents may decide to change titles to those

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Strategies for Transgender Parents to Support Their Children 2020-06-17T20:28:54-04:00

Support Your Teen with Pride

As teens navigate the waves of personal, intellectual, and physical changes brought on by puberty and adolescence, they are, at the same time, working to figure out who they are. They need resources. Having role models and resources that support positive views towards sexual orientation and gender identity will help tweens and teens understand their feelings and promote acceptance of diverse backgrounds. Magination Press publishes award-winning books to help teens find their way and themselves. This book is written for guys who identify themselves as guys, regardless of what parts they have. It’s written for you, whether you are interested in boys, girls, both, “not yet,” or none of the above. Dating and Sex Dating and Sex: A Guide For The 21st Century Teen Boy, by Andrew P. Smiler, PhD, is a comprehensive, inclusive, and accessible guide to sex and relationships. In addition, it explores puberty, identity, consent, body image, and safe sex and provides questions to help readers better understand themselves. Dating and Sex has won awards for nonfiction writing. Read a piece Dr. Smiler wrote about teens and dating here. Either Way: Story of a Gay Kid, by Sandra Levins, is a graphic novel with three intertwined stories: a coming-of-age coming out story, a lesson on civil rights and marriage equality, and historical fiction about a gay man in the military. It explores the personal experience of discovery and coming out as well as the history of gay rights in America. Either Way won the 2017 National Indie Excellence Award Winner for LGBTQ Fiction for Children and Young Adults. Girl: Love, Sex, Romance, and Being You, by Karen Rayne, PhD, is an inclusive guide to sexuality for all self-identified girls. It provides information about identity, dating, romance, love, relationships, and sex. It also includes self-reflection quizzes, resources, and must-read real-life stories from girls. Girl was included in the Chicago Public Library's 2017 Best of the Best Books List for Teen Nonfiction. Trans+: Love, Sex, Romance, and Being You, Karen Rayne, PhD and Kathryn Gonzales, MBA, is an all-inclusive, uncensored guide for teens who are transgender, nonbinary, gender-nonconforming, or gender-fluid. This comprehensive guide answers questions about gender and explores mental health, physical health and reproduction, transitioning, relationships, sex, and life as a trans or nonbinary individual. Trans+ also includes real-life stories and extensive resources. It is a 2020 ALA Rainbow Book List Selection, in addition to receiving other awards. Learn about respectful and accurate language to discuss gender diversity in a piece from Trans+ here. Finding yourself reflected in the pages of a book is a powerful, affirming experience. Help your teen find themselves with books from Magination Press. Check out Magination Press's Rainbow Collection. Magination Press is proud to offer books for kids and teens that celebrate LBGTQ+ voices and promote inclusive school and family values. Our books: are evidence-based and written by child development experts come with guides for caregivers and resources to further books’ messaging in the classroom, in the community, and at home backed by the American Psychological Association’s mission to benefit society

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Support Your Teen with Pride 2020-06-14T13:05:10-04:00

Words Matter: Respectful and Accurate Vocabulary for Discussing Gender Identity With Your Teen

Understanding gender identity requires having the words to accurately describe it. Kathryn Gonzales and Dr. Karen Rayne included a comprehensive dictionary in their Magination Press book, TRANS+: Love, Sex, Romance, and Being You, a comprehensive, uncensored guide for teens who are transgender, nonbinary, gender-nonconforming, gender-fluid, or questioning their gender identity, and for cis-allies.  This excerpt from the book’s dictionary provides some of the language you and your teen will need to understand and talk about gender. Advocate—A person who is cisgender and works and campaigns for the rights of trans, gender nonconforming, and genderqueer people and others who identify as a gender minority. Agender—A person who identifies as not having a gender; or, being without a gender. Ally—A person who is cisgender and who works with and campaigns in alliance (note the connection to the word ally) with people who area in the gender minority. Androgynous—A balance of the feminine and the masculine that includes aspects of both. Bigender—A person who identifies as having two genders. Biological Sex—A complex group of physical factors that are assigned to male, female, and intersex. The preferred term for this is “sex assigned at birth” because many people consider “biological sex” to be an offensive term at this point. Cisgender—A person whose sex assigned at birth (typically “female” or “male”) is in alignment with their gender identity. Cissexism—Treating cisgender people as though they have more rights and moral authority compared to people who are gender minorities. Cis normative—The assumption that cisgender people are normal and those who are gender minorities are not.  Coming out—Commonly understood as the first time someone discloses their gender identity or sexual orientation, coming out is actually something that gender and sexual minorities do throughout their lifetimes. Gender—A social construct that is often assumed to be aligned with aspects of biological sex, but that is far broader than biological sex. Different cultures have understood gender in dramatically different ways, with some incorporating an understanding of three or more genders. Gender binary—A categorization of gender as being either male or female rather than a spectrum. This is a harmful understanding of gender for all people because it categorizes them in ways that they might not feel comfortable with. Gender confirmation surgery—A group of medical procedures that changes a person’s body to bring it into alignment with their gender identity. Also called gender reassignment surgery; most people prefer the language gender confirmation surgery. Gender dysphoria—When a person’s gender identity is in direct conflict with their physical body, causing mild to extreme psychological distress. “Gender dysphoria” is a classification of mental disorder in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders IV (DSM IV). Gender expression—The way(s) that a person shares information about their gender through their hair, makeup, clothes, and other external aspects of their appearance that they have control over. Gender fluid—A person who is able to incorporate all genders into their identity and to flow easily between them. Gender identity—A person’s internal sense of how they relate or do

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Words Matter: Respectful and Accurate Vocabulary for Discussing Gender Identity With Your Teen 2019-10-28T14:24:51-04:00