Be Like Jeanne: Allies and LBGTQ+ History

When her son Morty was beaten by New York City officials for handing out pro-gay leaflets, Jeanne Manford wrote a powerful letter to the New York Post to complain about how Morty was treated. In the letter, which was published, she came out as the mother of a gay son. Morty invited his mother to march with him in the June 1972 Christopher Street Parade. While marching, she had the idea to form a group to help parents and families of LGBTQ+ people. That was the beginning of PFLAG.   The Mother of a Movement: Jeanne Manford–Ally, Activist, and Co-Founder of PFLAG, by Rob Sanders, is a true story of parental support and unconditional love. Here’s an excerpt from the Discussion Guide at the end of the book.  She could listen. She could love. She could learn and lead. She could speak up. She could show support. That's what Jeanne did.   Activist—someone who speaks out and protests about a cause or issue, especially a political or social cause.  Ally—a person or group who works with others for a common cause or purpose, especially a supporter of a marginalized group, who is usually not a member of the group.    To Think About and Discuss  Use the open-ended questions below to begin conversations with the children in your family, class, club, or organization.    When was a time you were an ally to someone? Why did you do it? How did it feel to stand up for someone else?  Has there been a time when someone was an ally to you?   Do you think it’s important to be an ally to others? Why or why not?   What is an ally and how can I be one?**  In the LGBTQ+ community, an ally is supportive of LGBTQ+ people, behaves in supportive ways, and invites others to be allies, too. While Jeanne Manford is a famous ally, throughout history there are people just like you who have been willing to provide support, encouragement, and help.     Here are some simple ways YOU can be an ally:  START BY LEARNING  Allies are always learning so they can do more and help educate others. You won’t always have all the answers, and that’s okay! If you make a mistake, apologize and learn how to do better next time.    DON’T LET FEAR STOP YOU  There are lots of reasons why people might be afraid to be allies. Maybe they’re nervous about speaking up. Maybe they aren’t sure where to start. Listen to what others tell you. Figure out what feels scary to you. Then you can figure out how to take action.     BE ACTIVE  Start with something simple, like putting a rainbow sticker on your backpack and telling friends why it’s there. Use what you learn from books like this one to talk about why you care and help others be allies. Most of all, treat others with kindness and respect.    THERE ARE MANY WAYS TO BE AN ALLY  There’s no

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Be Like Jeanne: Allies and LBGTQ+ History 2022-10-12T14:32:13-04:00

Celebrate Hispanic Heritage Month With Books

In honor of Hispanic Heritage Month, we highlight APA children’s books featuring Latinx families.  Each of these books celebrates family and highlights the richness of culture and the strength of community and love. Explore them with your child. Something Happened to My Dad: A Story About Immigration and Family Separation by Ann Hazzard, PhD, ABPP, and Vivianne Aponte Rivera, MD Algo Le Pasó a Mi Papá: Una Historia Sobre Inmigración y la Separación Familiar by Vivianne Aponte Rivera, MD and Ann Hazzard, PhD, ABPP “A well-researched, deeply affecting picture book examines deportation and its effects on communities and immigrant families. ...An important, empathetic, and well-told immigration story that strikes a hopeful note of resilience. (glossary of immigration terms, illustrator’s note, further reading, Spanish edition).” –Kirkus Carmen loves doing magic with her Papi. She is sad and scared when she learns he has been detained because he is an undocumented immigrant from Mexico. Carmen learns she can find strength in herself and maintain her connection with Papi, no matter what happens. Accordionly: Abuelo and Opa Make Music by Michael Genhart, PhD “This is a reassuring story, emphasizing that though we may be different we can find common ground, an especially important message for multiracial/multiethnic children who can often feel pulled between competing identities… "—Kirkus Reviews Abuelo speaks Spanish. Opa speaks German. Both play the accordion. The little boy in Accordionly: Abuelo and Opa Make Music, shows great creativity and wisdom as he finds a way to help his grandfathers connect through music. Marvelous Maravilloso: Me and My Beautiful Family by Carrie Lara, PsyD  “A wonderfully presented picture book story from the point of view of a young interracial child about what color means within the dynamics of race, ethnicity, and culture." —Midwest Book Review Our colors make us beautiful and unique. Explore the colors of the world, including the peoples’ beautiful and unique colors, with a little girl and her family. The Heart of Mi Familia by Carrie Lara, PsyD “A child explores what being bicultural means to them in ways that feel familiar to young readers… Bicultural kids will feel seen in this sweet family story. " —Kirkus Review Follow a young girl as she works with her abuela and her grandma to create a wonderful birthday present for her brother. She creates a gift that celebrates her multicultural family and honors both sides and generations of her family. This follow up to the award-winning Marvelous Maravilliso: Me and My Beautiful Family is a must-read for all families. My Singing Nana by Pat Mora “A winning story that also serves as a useful family resource." —Publishers Weekly Billy and his Nana are very close. They love to sing together. When Billy notices that his Nana is forgetting things, his mom explains that she sometimes needs help. When Nana is having a hard day, Billy draws on his special connection with her to include her in family events.

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Celebrate Hispanic Heritage Month With Books 2022-09-17T19:38:26-04:00

Books to Celebrate Fathers and Father Figures

Fathers, grandfathers, and parents who may be gender fluid come in wonderfully expressive forms. Celebrate and honor them with books about diverse families. Something Happened to My Dad: A Story About Immigration and Family Separation by Ann Hazzard, PhD, ABPP and Vivianne Aponte Rivera, MD is a realistic and empowering tale in which Carmen learns that through community and love, she can find strength in herself and maintain her connection with her Papi, who has been detained because of his immigration status. Read an excerpt from the adult-child dialog section. That Missing Feeling by Amy Ludwig VanDerwater explores adjusting to divorce.  Mia’s life feels split in two after her parents get divorced. When Mia visits her Grandpa, he gives her a little blue notebook saying, “When I write about Grandma, I am sad but I am happy too. She is gone, but you are here. Life changes, and writing helps me think about these changes. My notebook is a home for my heart.” Read an interview with the author. Hear That Missing Feeling read aloud. My Maddy by Gayle E. Pitman, PhD explores what it’s like to have a gender-nonconforming parent from a child’s perspective. “Most mommies are girls. Most daddies are boys. But lots of parents are like my Maddy. My Maddy has hazel eyes which are not brown or green. And my Maddy likes sporks because they are not quite a spoon or a fork. The best things in the world are not one thing or the other. They are something in between and entirely their own.” Read an excerpt from My Maddy’s Note to Readers. Pockets Full of Rocks by Yair Engelberg presents a young daughter’s questions to her depressed father. He offers direct answers and promotes the hope that he will become his old self again. This gentle, hopeful book will help kids cope with a parent’s mental illness. Read an interview with the author. Papa, Daddy, & Riley by Seamus Kirst explores Riley’s experience when one of her schoolmates asks which one of her dads is her real father. It celebrates the special, unique relationships children have with each of their parents and the love that makes a family. Hear Papa, Daddy, & Riley read aloud. Read a piece by Seamus Kirst about the power of inclusion. Accordionly: Abuelo and Opa Make Music by Michael Genhart, PhD, tells the story of two musical grandfathers and a boy who uses their shared love of accordions to help them connect, even though they don’t speak the same language. It explores families’ rich cultural diversity and how, while we may be different, we all have much in common as well. Hear Accordionly read aloud here. Read a piece Dr. Genhart wrote about writing the book.

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Books to Celebrate Fathers and Father Figures 2022-06-13T12:20:38-04:00