You know what a bystander is: someone who is present when something happens, but doesn’t get involved. Sometimes that’s ok, but when a situation is unfair, cruel, or unjust, action is in order.
Parents try to teach their children to stand up for themselves in challenging situations. Parents can also help their children recognize and act on injustice or unfairness. Instead of a bystander, parents can help their children become Upstanders! An Upstander is a person who stands up to support fairness and respect while also trying to decrease bullying and injustice.
Magination Press’s book, Stand Up! Be an Upstander and Make a Difference, by Wendy L. Moss, Ph.D, explores what it means to be an Upstander. Dr. Moss offers suggestions for how children can make positive changes in their worlds, while encouraging them to brainstorm ideas of their own. This excerpt from Chapter 8 identifies some ways kids can be Upstanders.
- Use relaxation skills and respectful communication tools during disagreements with siblings or adults.
- Use positive self-talk to remain confident before working to help others.
- Spend time with others, including older or younger siblings, showing them you value their company and ideas.
- Try to include instead of exclude. Sometimes it would be helpful and even fun to include a student who seems to be alone or lonely.
- Talk with other students about what they think needs to be done to make your school more peaceful. Work with others toward this goal using skills learned in Stand Up!
- Use the power of a smile! Smile and even say hello to lots of different people so that they know you are acknowledging them.
In your neighborhood
- Offer to help out neighbors who find physical tasks challenging by walking their dog, shoveling snow, or taking out their garbage.
- Fight loneliness. Where appropriate, visit family friends or relatives who may be lonely, or organize a group to visit a local retirement home.
- Identify ways to help your neighborhood, like picking up litter, creating a safe space for kids to hang out, or helping out at the library, and work with others to solve a problem.
In the world
- Find creative ways to support charities that work on areas important to you. For example, donate one of your birthday gifts, organize a lemonade stand and donate the money earned, or participate in a charity’s walk-a-thon and collect donations for each mile you walk.
- Help find a cure for a disease that has impacted someone you know. Research the disease and organizations searching for a cure. Raise awareness about the disease and collect donations to fund research.
- Work toward a big goal, like promoting world peace, by looking for organizations near home that share your goal. Be sure to check with an adult to make sure they feel comfortable with you communicating with the organization, local or otherwise, directly.
Being an Upstander means speaking out when you see injustice or bullying. It also means identifying important issues and working toward positive solutions to problems. Stand Up! helps children learn important communication, conflict resolution, and negotiation skills as well as how to set realistic, specific, and attainable goals to make a difference in the world.
Excerpt pulled from Chapter 8 of Stand Up! Be an Upstander and Make a Difference by Wendy L. Moss, Ph.D, published by Magination Press.
Related Books from Magination Press
Stand Up: Be an Upstander and Make a Difference
Do you want to be an Upstander who makes the world a better place by standing up to bullying and injustice in your school, home, or community? If so, this book is for you!
You may doubt that one kid can make a difference. You can’t fly like Wonder Woman or scale walls like Spiderman, but you could be a hero to someone else by speaking up. Small changes can lead to bigger and bigger changes!
Chock full of quizzes, examples, practical advice, and small steps you can take in your real life, Stand Up!: Be an Upstander and Make a Difference takes readers through the ways to be an Upstander, including being kind to yourself, having empathy for others, spreading kindness, and dealing with conflicts.